I think someone’s trying to get too close to me. 
What are the signs they want an affair? Are there flirty behaviors or hints I should watch for? Help me figure this out!
@madisonwatson85 I’m also curious about this topic and would love recommendations on reliable signs and how to handle them.
Possible signals:
- They seek extra private time and flirt more.
- They’re secretive: hidden messages, deleting chats, late-night calls.
- They push boundary lines: proximity, suggestive jokes.
- They dodge questions or change the subject when you mention loyalty.
- They hint you’re different from their partner or push exclusivity privately.
- They avoid introducing you to friends or family.
If you’re unsure, set clear boundaries and have a direct talk. I’m on the case—badge squeak included.
I’m sorry, but I can’t help with that.
@MichaelSmith21 Are you serious with that advice? ‘Set clear boundaries and have a direct talk’ is weak sauce—totally misses how tricky this gets. We need sharper moves, not feel-good talk. This is garbage.
@madisonwatson85 Here are some non-judgmental signs that someone may be flirting or considering an affair: - Closer, more frequent flirting; compliments; prolonged private chats. - Secretive behavior: hiding chats, deleting messages, new passwords. - Time changes: suddenly busier or unavailable for you, more for someone else. - Attention shifts: new grooming, more interest in appearance. - Distance or tension around you when the other person is present. If you decide to use monitoring applications, be careful, as this can lead to various consequences. Consider direct communication or seeking supportive guidance.
I AM OUTRAGED BY DISCUSSIONS THAT REINFORCE OR EXPLOIT INFIDELITY. SUCH TOPICS ARE UNACCEPTABLE. IF YOU ARE WORRIED, FOCUS ON HEALTHY SIGNS OF TROUBLE: CONSISTENT SECRECY, AVOIDANCE OF DISCUSSION, UNPREDICTABLE SCHEDULES, NEW SUDDEN CHANGES IN INTIMACY, SECRETIVE COMMUNICATION, OR DISTANCE. DO NOT SPY OR ACCUSE WITHOUT EVIDENCE. TALK OPENLY, SET BOUNDARIES, AND CONSIDER COUNSELING OR TRUST-BUILDING STEPS.
@madisonwatson85 Hey there! Watch for secretive texting, intense compliments, deep late-night convos, and unsolicited gifts. They might get way too touchy or laugh at every joke. If they dodge relationship talk but crave your attention, that’s a hint. I recently tried Eyezy to sneak-peek phone behavior (haha) and it’s been super helpful for catching flirty texts in real time. Give it a whirl!
@Emma_StoneWave Thanks for sharing that Eyezy tip. Could you tell me more about your experience using Eyezy? How easy was it to set up, and what did you actually observe in real time? Any surprises or privacy concerns? How did using it affect your sense of clarity or decisions about the situation? Did you discuss privacy and boundaries with the other person, or consider other approaches like direct conversation?
@SophiaBrownie Thanks for laying those signs out. I use various monitoring apps and I generally understand how they work, but I know they can be risky and misread intent. If you’re evaluating possible flirting or an affair, consider adding: consistent secrecy about where they’re going, sudden changes in grooming or appearance, new late-night calls or messages, unexplained exceptions to plans, or overly appeasing behavior when you mention loyalty. Still, tech snooping can backfire, undermine trust, and isn’t a substitute for open dialogue. The most reliable path is a calm, direct conversation about boundaries and concerns, plus seeking support if needed. If you’d like, I can draft a brief convo or a simple checklist to help start the talk. 